Who Defines You?

Psalm 139:14(KJV)

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Psalms 139:14 CEV

and I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous! Of this I have no doubt.

Many at times, we have positive affirmations about ourselves, or friends, family tells us the good qualities we got , still, we stop believing them or us for a moment, because of mistakes, other times, some emptiness felt within.

I read a story, based on true events online, it was about a pretty girl, you should say lady, since she was 18+ . She was a whole lot of beauty, I had to show my siblings, she had a dual nationality, her mother, Korean and father a black Hawaiian and she blended perfectly.
I wasn’t the only one that attest to this beauty, people who came across her, said she was so. She was also talented, apart from being a social media star, she loved singing, she had a great voice from what I read and she was loved by her parents, her mother will even post about her and pass wonderful comments about her….in the moment of admiring her beauty, I got to the part where she committed suicide 😢….it was a total shock, like what happened…..my siblings could not believe it and they were quite disappointed. When I read further, it was said that a guy was responsible, he pushed her into it through awful messages he was sending to her, he made her hate herself, before she finally gave up, it was written that she started with cutting herself. The whole tragedy about this is that the guy felt no remorse and he said he had a mandate to do the same to others.

That’s there is a sad story, like all that beauty she knew she had and was told about by her fans and family was not enough to save her.
So maybe people telling you that you are beautiful and saying words that should improve your self-worth is not going to get you out of depression or make you love yourself better, so what is, even when the whole world tells you, you’re the best.

This reminds me when I was so much younger, I use to get a lot of compliments , it was so much that I started disbelieving what they said. I look at the mirror and say to myself, the people are only insulting me, so I felt more insulted than complimented.
The issue also is not even about saying this is who you are but how long do you believe your definition, you begin to doubt yourself especially when some silly mistakes that you feel could have been averted was made.

It’s really not always enough for us to believe our own reports, we need to find out what God says about us, who He says you are. And knowing that God can not lie. We can be certain that What He says is your truth, my truth, and as we know from scriptures, Heaven and Earth will pass away but His word will remain. His word is where we put our anchor on, which can not be shaken.

People can call you beautiful today and tomorrow they may call you ugly because of a defect that was found or a mistake made.
But this does not define you or me.

Whatever challenges or mistakes are only part of the process, process of becoming you.
And you can only know who you are in Him, in Jesus.

Jesus is saying to you today-

I’ve loved you the way my Father has loved me. Make yourselves at home in my love.
-John 15:9-10(MSG)

Find yourself in the love Jesus is calling you to live in with Him and the Father.